tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post7788484604008369495..comments2023-06-21T04:40:43.690-07:00Comments on Mommy and the Sin City: Prude?Frenchiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03972412488063288509noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post-6263684630059288952012-05-29T10:56:27.651-07:002012-05-29T10:56:27.651-07:00I don't think it is a huge deal. AAL put it we...I don't think it is a huge deal. AAL put it well. I probably wouldn't let me child do it, but all the power to others. I don't want children growing up feeling ashamed of their bodies that young. Just not in the pool (from a former life guard who has cleaned up more pool poo than you can imagine!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post-21739445823960377592012-05-23T11:05:40.574-07:002012-05-23T11:05:40.574-07:00I also don't think it's a big deal -- mayb...I also don't think it's a big deal -- maybe it's just the French in me, but a kid running around naked seems fine. I agree with CM, that it is socially acceptable until about 7. If it wasn't for the sun being so strong, about half the time I bring Mia to the pool (at least twice a week since it started getting warm) I wonder why I don't just let her run around in her swim diaper. Baby swimsuits are just for cuteness anyway. And 3 or 4 is still considered a toddler.<br /><br />I would honestly just worry about him not being well-protected from the sun without anything to cover him up!Frenchiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972412488063288509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post-14785328110044197952012-05-22T12:30:48.930-07:002012-05-22T12:30:48.930-07:00Okay, I think it is completely inappropriate!! At...Okay, I think it is completely inappropriate!! At home, in your own pool? Fine. But not at a community pool. If this was a public pool, a lifeguard would have shut that down with a quickness. Simply not appropriate in my opinion.everythingismeowsomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06671155513531459483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post-1631465838536572962012-05-22T09:47:55.112-07:002012-05-22T09:47:55.112-07:00Here's where I'm at: My issue is not with ...Here's where I'm at: My issue is not with children going nude. I, like all of you have alluded to, and AAL specifically stated, would like Tybalt to grow up comfortable with his body and knowing that naked is not a bad or weird thing. My "issue" lies with the public nudity. I have been in groups of family and friends where the smaller children run around nude, or at least bottomless, between diaper changes, or clothing changes, or when the kid just feels like going for a "streak." And I'm perfectly cool with that. Because we are all close and relaxed. I actually think it's a positive statement for the child to seemingly feel they are in a trusted space. Kids feed off the attitude(s) parents project. The apartment pool, however, was a very public arena where everyone was strangers. Even leaving possible "creeps" out of it, I just don't feel it's appropriate to let your child go nude on purpose in front of strangers.<br /><br />I would understand if he was a smaller child that stripped himself down out of rebellion and the gentlemen had made the decision earlier on that when he does so they won't draw attention to it or make him feel it is wrong. (I have read that is the best approach during that stage of development.) Or if because of a young age, he had a diaper on instead of trunks and it got swollen in the water, started to tear (you know, leak that crystallized absorbent material?) and they took it off and figured he's fine naked for a little while longer while we stay at the pool. But I think, assuming he was around 4 years old, that he's too old for either of those scenarios. And while CM suggests an age of 7 to be appropriate for a child to go naked if they so choose, and I concede to that, I still happen to think only for brief stints and only in the privacy of one's own house, backyard, etc. I want Tybalt to know he shouldn't be ashamed of his body in any way, so around us at home up to a certain age I see as fine, if not a given. But in public, past the point of toddler/diaper/preschool age? Sorry, personally, I just don't agree. While Tybalt shouldn't be ashamed, he should also know he "owns" his body and not everyone is allowed or deserves to see it. (See above re: relaxing around family and friends vs. strangers.)<br /><br />But, I owe all of you a big thanks. Because you have helped me process my feelings, and you have also helped me realize that I judged too quickly. It is obviously a very personal choice family to family, and one that each needs to make for itself.Juliet Caphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375907492021504307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post-16886817418122623722012-05-22T08:35:57.570-07:002012-05-22T08:35:57.570-07:00You ladies are making me think, and I sincerely lo...You ladies are making me think, and I sincerely love it. After all, it's the whole point! Thank you.Juliet Caphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375907492021504307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post-18233486092287356492012-05-22T07:28:52.739-07:002012-05-22T07:28:52.739-07:00I third the ladies. No big. And while AAL has ma...I third the ladies. No big. And while AAL has made me conscious of the possibility of pedophiles around my children, Free Range Kids has made me really focus on dialing down the paranoia on that front. So I'd probably let my kid do it, though I can't imagine him ever wanting to. He's just four, and completely unself-conscious about his body still, and hasn't noticed or asked about why women and men have different bodies. Ergo, nudity is still no big deal for him. My only concern would be hygiene and safety - I don't want his little willy getting caught on any wayward corners, god forbid!G Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02725673743467912088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post-57267982287677850862012-05-22T06:33:34.399-07:002012-05-22T06:33:34.399-07:00I agree with AAL. I don't think it's a big...I agree with AAL. I don't think it's a big deal for little kids (under 7, maybe?) to run around naked if they feel like it.CMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01559451322234777335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4177018752362536366.post-14524602658470220542012-05-21T22:51:29.485-07:002012-05-21T22:51:29.485-07:00I don't think it's a big deal. Three year ...I don't think it's a big deal. Three year olds aren't/shouldn't be sexualized. If there was something hinky going on with the dad(s) that would be one thing, but it sounds more like a cultural difference. I'd prefer for kids to grow up thinking being naked (and being happy with their bodies) is perfectly fine. <br /><br />That said, personally, no, I wouldn't let my kid go naked in a public place at her age (almost 5) because I know how many pervs are out there (and who habituate places like a public pool). So there's that.Queen of Hatshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18414857586175029137noreply@blogger.com